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Change in my Life: Part 3 - Filter

Thanks for reading. This will continue a multi-part blog for me...organized by categories.

I look back upon my life in the last year or so. My "word of the year" for 2009 is "Change." Ironically, this has nothing to do with the political campaign of someone. I realized at the end of 2008 that 2009 would be the year for change in my life and probably others. Change is something that all of us go through in our lives, sometimes good . . . other times not so much.

A lesson that I learned surfaced today. A very valuable lesson at that.

"I try to share as much of my life experiences with everybody, because I think it turned out pretty well. I'm proud of it!" - Rush

An interview that I saw with Rush Limbaugh helped too. Back when I was a kid, (man...typing that makes me feel OLD!) I did not care really about what I said. Things would harm people, polarizing in certain situations and straight up not necessary...if I say so myself.

With certain things that have been said with political leaders and law enforcement officials here recently, I was reminded of this. Some things I would like to point out are:

1. If you do not know all of the details in a specific situation, hold your tongue. Nothing is more polarizing that making assumptions or stereo-types to try and make your point. Trust me, I have been down that pathway before. Then, you have to do through the process of mending the bridges that you have destroyed.

2. Choose your battles. If you thing fighting a battle is important enough, go ahead. But be warned that you will have to stand by your words and accept the ramifications of the words that you say.

3. Try not to get involved in situations that do not concern you. This is very self-explanatory, please be careful. Most people do not want you involved.

4. Choose your words carefully. If you find it necessary to get involved, do so with caution and go over in your head what you will say.

So...the above are just a few thoughts that I have. Take them as a learning experience before you do something that you regret. I love being able to share in experiences with other people. Thanks for reading and I hope that this will be helpful for you.

-Ken

Labels: 2009, change, Change in my Life, disciplined, forgiveness, maturity, word of the year

Change in my Life: Part 2 - Forgiveness

Thanks for reading. This will continue a multi-part blog for me...organized by categories.

I look back upon my life in the last year or so. My "word of the year" for 2009 is "Change." Ironically, this has nothing to do with the political campaign of someone. I realized at the end of 2008 that 2009 would be the year for change in my life and probably others. Change is something that all of us go through in our lives, sometimes good . . . other times not so much.

Forgiveness

Matthew 18:21-22
²¹ "Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” ²² Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven."

For those that that follow me on Twitter, may have seen this Scripture surface on one of my #worshipwednesday posts this last week. Forgiveness is something that I am dealing with...hardcore in my life. I think that if we are all honest, we all deal with it constantly in one form or another.

At best we are all human. When someone wrongs us, be can't help but get upset. Some deal with it better than others; and to be honest I am doing much better in this area than I was a few years back, but still I still struggle. I've noticed this year specifically, that I brush things off with much more ease. I am not sure as to why, maybe it is God's work in my life and him developing me to be more like him each and every day.

Thanks for reading and your support. Feel free to add to the discussion by adding comments below. You guys rock!

-Ken

Labels: 2009, change, Change in my Life, disciplined, forgiveness, maturity, word of the year

The Know-It-All Bully

There are many types of people that rub my fur (if I was a cat) the wrong way. A person that has the know-it-all attitude. Believe me, I believe people can have much knowledge about topics . . . but when you mix arrogance with that knowledge, you are doing something wrong. I know many people that are experts at their craft and I highly respect those individuals. Being arrogant and a bully is no way to gain respect by anyone. You may think people have respect for you, but at the end of the day, things are much different that what you think.

Then, to add on top of that, when that person puts themselves in jokes that they are not a part of, that is just a formula for failure.

Through my experiences and heeding the advice of my father and many other influential people in my life, bullies are fed upon your emotion. The more attention you give them, the more fuel they will have for condemning you. The proper way to deal with bullies is to not. Let them be . . . walk away and be the bigger person. Obviously, they aren't going to because they are the bully! They have chosen the low road, so you as the better person should chose the high road.

What do we do from here?

Step 1 - You do not feed the fire by being abrasive toward the individual.

Step 2 - You do not allow the person to know that he effects you (where applicable)

Step 3 - Be professional and move on. Arrogant people will receive their judgment and will eventually find out the hard way what they have been doing and living is not an appropriate style.

In the heat of the moment, you can not let these people effect you. We should and Christ sets the example that we should be the bigger person. When this person effects you, just move on and continue doing what you know is right. They will learn on their own time. It is not your responsibility to justify anything.

-Ken

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Change in my Life: Part 1 - Organization

Thanks for reading. This will start a multi-part blog for me...organized my categories.

I look back upon my life in the last year or so. My "word of the year" for 2009 is "Change." Ironically, this has nothing to do with the political campaign of someone. I realized at the end of 2008 that 2009 would be the year for change in my life and probably others. Change is something that all of us go through in our lives, sometimes good . . . other times not so much.

Organization

As I grow up, I feel the need to live life organized. Nothing is more irritating than living life unorganized. I have put forth efforts to have a better schedule, which includes having a certain time that is consistent for going to sleep each night and waking up in the mornings.

I tend to go to bed earlier and wake up early. When I tell some people this, they tend to think it is odd. In reality, it is not. Maintaining a schedule, I believe, is part of a disciplined lifestyle. It aids in getting certain tasks done while allowing one to get enough rest for the day to follow.

I have always been a stickler for keeping things such as computers, files and movies organized . . . again, another aspect of what keeping with the disciplined lifestyle. I have begun living by a calendar and following that as best as I can. That has helped me to not forget about certain things, which had been an issue in the past.

It is for your best interest, if you do not already to live an organized life. I would really encourage you to do so if you are not already. Organization is key. People respect those who are organized. It makes you as a person look more professional than being unorganized Employers look for individuals that are organized. It makes you more and more dependable.

-Ken

Labels: 2009, change, Change in my Life, disciplined, maturity, Oragnization, word of the year