The Blog of Ken Miller, Jr.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Complainers: Anonymous

"Gosh, it is so hot!"
"Ugh, this internet is SOO slow!"
"Man, these people can't drive!"

I will spare you from any more. But seriously, do people that complain irritate you? Why do people have to constantly state their discontentment with a specific situation?

I tend to think people that complain either are not aware that they are doing it or they are just miserable (or close too it) and would like to let everyone else know how miserable they are. Whichever the answer to the question may be, I believe complaints are very unnecessary. I welcome criticism any day (as long as it is in good taste); but there is a line between the two.

I will break it down into two "levels." A complaint is something a person states...that is not significant to any other human being, but it is a declaration of one's discontentment with a specific happening within their life. To be honest, complaints most of the time do nothing to help solve a problem.

Criticism is when a person makes an observation and offers helpful suggestions in order that one person become better at a specific task or situation. I am a big problem solver. I love brainstorming to find resolutions for a given scenario, but when someone comes over and is upset and starts rambling on about how discontent they are, that is unnecessary.

Come to me with a legitimate problem and your best solution for it, I will be more than happy to help you in solving that, come to me with an annoying complaint...I am sorry but that does not do anything for me.

You know yourself best. If you are forgetful, make reminders. If you are naturally cold, bring more clothes. For every problem there is a solution. People will respect you more if you are mature enough to learn from your own mistakes.

Complaints do not get you very far in this world. I am sure that what you find worthy of a complaint, does not compare to anything that someone within ten feet of you are going through. Thank you for reading. I tried to not "complain" too much. This is just an observation that I have made the last couple of weeks...and thought that someone could benefit from it.

Thanks for reading. I would like to hear your feedback on what you think!

-Ken

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Friday, July 10, 2009

Agree or Disagree?

A teacher I had for a Bible class in high school always taught me "You must learn to agree to disagree agreeably." If we could make an amendment to the golden rule, I think this would be great to add on along side of the existing rule of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

We all have different beliefs, convictions and standards. A person should have reasons for what he believes, but I can only assume that some folks do not. If you are a person who does not have support for your beliefs, let me encourage you to step out and figure out what you believe.

In my experience, I have specific political and spiritual beliefs. These are very controversial, for one I have very Conservative beliefs both policially and spiritualy. I believe in the soverignty of God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. I believe in the sanctity of life in all people, I believe in small Government and many many others. Those are just a few. These all tend to be "hot topics" and can be very controversial.

Do we have the license to ridicule someone for their own beliefs or opinions? Is it right to publicly bash someone for their difference of beliefs? The answer to these questions and many others are NO. We are allowed to disagree with others, but you have to do it in respect for those people. We all believe what we believe for a reason. Please show respect and disagree agreeably.

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